Philip Jones

Hello and Welcome.

5 years ago I was giving talks and running workshops with the title “How Love Works” with my friend and colleague Dr Bobbi Bennett. I was inspired by the ways in which modern neuroscientific research was confirming the value of meditation practices from the Mindfulness and Vajrayana Traditions that I had been studying for three decades.

The talks and workshops were centred around showing how the down-to-earth practices of meditation can help all kinds of intimate relationships – couples, partnerships and marriages.

During one of my talks, a member of the audience at one of my talks came up to me at the end of my talk and recommended that I read “Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships” by Dr Sue Johnson. As I read the book I was captivated by the value of the Emotionally Focussed Therapy model to my work with couples.

I resolved immediately to train to become an EFT therapist.

This meant undertaking a period of four years’ of study: first training for a Level IV Diploma in Integrative Therapeutic Counselling at Heartwood Counselling and Psychotherapy Training Ltd in Dartington, Devon, and then studying to be an Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapist with the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy based in Ottowa, Canada.

I am passionate about this work and how the benefits of it means that people in a long-term relationship or marriage no longer need to suffer unnecessarily. So many of us yearn for a long term relationship which works for us and our partner. But so few of us manage to achieve that. If it was as easy as walking we would all be doing it, but it isn’t. It proves to be a challenge for many, but fortunately it is not impossible.

This approach has helped my own relationship enormously; knowing that it works for myself and my partner is part of what inspires me to want to help other couples find their way out of their own destructive cycles of behaviour.

I know from personal experience how painful it is to suffer in a relationship that you really want to work – and you don’t know how to find the way to make it work. Finding Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy not only provided the missing elements for my own partnership but also has helped us grow and improve our relating in ways we never even imagined were possible.

It is very rewarding to be able to support people to re-kindle what felt good about being together and find ways to rebuild honest and close dialogues that help restore the intimacy which once brought so much joy, pleasure, love, passion and laughter. Often at the beginning, people can find the work to be difficult; but by the end of our sessions together, it is always really satisfying to see and experience the positive benefits of the reliable and thorough “hard work miracle” that Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy offers. 

And I feel honoured to be able to offer this tried and tested approach to a wide variety of people who are struggling with their partnership.

You can find me listed on the EFT website. Search for www.iceeft.com, click on “Find a Therapist” and enter my last name [“Jones”] to find me there.